Confidence

Lack of confidence is perhaps the foremost example of self-limiting behaviour.

Indications of low self-confidence include: -

• Governing your behaviour based on what other people think.
• Staying in your comfort zone, fearing failure and so avoid taking risks
• Working hard to cover up mistakes and praying that you can fix the problem before anyone is the wiser
• Extolling your own virtues as often as possible to as many people as possible.
• Dismissing compliments offhandedly. “it was nothing really, anyone could have done it”

Indications of a self-confidence include: -

• Doing what you believe to be right, even if others mock or criticize you for it.
• Being willing to take risks and go the extra mile to achieve better things.
• Admitting your mistakes and vowing to learn from them.
• Waiting for others to congratulate you on your accomplishments
• Accepting compliments graciously. “Thanks, I really worked hard it. I’m pleased you recognize my efforts.”

As you can see, low self-confidence can be self-destructive, and it often manifests itself as negativity. It can negatively affect work, recreation, relationships and future opportunities.

Self-confident people, on the other hand, are generally more positive. They believe in themselves and their abilities, and they also believe in living life to the full.

Now you can let go of low self-confidence and embrace confidence

In years gone by this may have required eight to twelve sessions of regression analysis. Now change has become much easier using mind modelling tools from NLP.

These fun mental exercises can be extraordinarily, powerful and can bring about almost immediate change in many instances.

We all owe it to ourselves, to our families and those we love, to remove the unnecessary barriers created by low self-esteem: -

Phone 08454568245 – to book your personal confidence-building programme:

Understanding our confidence or the lack of it

We are all born with the ability to be confident.

Confidence (or our lack of it) is a learned behaviour that we have nurtured and developed over the years.

Most of us experience areas where we feel confident and others where we experience a lack of confidence, a small number of us have difficulty finding any areas of our life where we feel confident.

Confidence or our lack of it; emanates from our belief pattern, which is largely a learned response, created at a young age, by our acceptance of the views of other peoples (parents and teachers in particular), who assessed our actions, based upon their criteria, experience and beliefs. The more accepting and encouraging that assessment the greater our confidence grew, the more critical it became the less self-confident we became.

In later life we put our own interpretation on own actions, but often that interpretation will have be influenced by our existing self-belief pattern. Thus if we have low self-belief we will see a situation which didn’t work out the way we wanted it to, as a” failure” (and therefore may give up), rather than part of a learning process (in which case we would continue on, noting that in that particular situation that action had not been successful or appropriate).

The Good News

Self-limiting beliefs are just that – beliefs. And BELIEFS CAN BE CHANGED.

We do it all the time with external situations, as our knowledge base changes.

For example when I was a student I believed that the only way to do a calculation was to do the calculations in my head or on paper or possibly with the help of something called a “slide rule”. A few years later the first personal calculator appeared on the market and my “belief” changed, because my “experience” changed.

Internal beliefs or self-belief can also be changed. By understanding where the self-limiting beliefs came from and then changing our interpretation of the experience and the association connected with those experiences.

To book your personal confidence-building programme -

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